I
had a splitting headache today and had to pop a crocin...
No
no..and definitely not the perennial tantrums of my Boss
But
because of a hell raising debate...
I
really believe I’ll be a very good spouse because of my apathy towards debates
and arguments..and I realised at the end of the splitting debate..err..
headache that I definitely will never be able to make in to even the local
panchayat forget Lok sabha and the rest..
The topic though was a trivial one; at the end
when the sweet arbitrator tried to put
us to ceasefire and when we,the great debaters who are otherwise good friends,realised
that we had whiled away an hour;we both decided to shut up!!
So,have
you ever seen a happy end of a debate?
I
cant recollect one such example except those debate competitions in school
where one holds up a trophy!
Frankly I feel all those years in school where
students are encouraged to take part in debates (pointless again is the entire
concept where kids are given a topic,asked to write or get it written,mug up
the content and deliver it from their memory in front of a naive audience) goes
down in drain..
They
say debate is an intellectual pursuit..but how?
At
the end of 99% of debates both the parties are left unconvinced and not an iota
do they agree with each other.
Human
beings are supposed to be opinionated and possess the thing called “ego” which doesn’t feel good when bruised.
In
my observation,the more “intellectual” a person claims or is renowned to be
,the more opinions he has of his own,and the less likely he is to be budged
from his ground of thinking because he has ultimate assurance,confidence and at
times even pride in his “intellect”.
Look
at the those correspondents on TV talk shows trying to put debaters to peace when
they start screaming at each other on screen .The
futile debates in the parliaments and unnecessary interruptions and delays cost
so much to our exchequer.
Hailing
from an engineering college where we get enough of time for discussions and
“bakar” I remember a few incidents.
During
college some of my guy friends had a debate over the complexion of Sunidhi Chauhan
and Shreya Ghoshal as to which of the 2 singers is fairer..
To
prove, both started downloading images on google and trying to prove their point .
Result:
An entire night wasted with no conclusions.(Not that even reaching a conclusion
on this one would make a huge difference to anyone)
Some
similar ones are
Who
is the better khan Aamir or Shah Rukh?
Who
is the more beautiful of the two?
Aishwarya
or Sushmita?
What
is better ?
A
smart and not-so beautiful wife or a not-so smart but beautiful wife?
Which
is innocuous Halal meat or Jhatka?
What
is healthier?
Veg
food or non veg?
MBA
as a career option or not?
Life
in big cities or Life in small ones?
Ahh..and
those debates men so often get embroiled and start quoting facts and figures
just to prove who is greater of them.
Sir
Don Bradman or Sachin Tendulkar?
Pele
or Maradona?
Federer
or Nadal?
And
suddenly some one will quote a statistic and the other party will disagree and
bet and go google just to prove him wrong..but damn that still doesn’t end the
debate..
Let
it just be guys ..There have been issues and debates unresolved since time
immemorial..Most of the times I feel the debaters just end up wasting their
time and energy.
Like
the UN debates of Palestine Vs Israel.
India
Vs Pakistan
Communism
Vs Democracy
Industrial Development Vs Eco-system sustainability
God
Vs Science
If
there is any little benefit out of a debate then it goes to those who are the
silent neutral observers,who listen to it with an open mind and seek some
knowledge from both the sides . Its like two dogs strive for a bone and the
third one runs off with it.But very soon this third dog meets another one and
starts fighting as he soon has his own opinion too.
So how right is it for you to vent your spleen
over a statement you believe in?How right is it for you to engage in a debate?
Debate
sure promises a repartee and as movies
show even helps forge relationships but I have decided for the umpteenth time
to shut up and never engage in one.So what if people think I am dumb and too
pacific! After all its my own opinion.
So you don’t want to debate on the “FUTILITY OF DEBATE” .Do you?
